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When Everyone Is Bad Around You — Maybe It’s Time to Check Yourself
It’s easy to blame the world for our discomfort, to point fingers and conclude that everyone around us is the problem. But sometimes, when you find yourself constantly playing the victim, when every relationship seems to crumble the same way, and when you’re always surrounded by “bad” people — it might be time to pause and look inward.
Self-awareness is not always comfortable, but it’s necessary for growth. The truth is, if you are always right and everyone else is always wrong, something is off. Life is not that one-sided. Even the wisest people in history acknowledged the limits of their own understanding.
When You’re Always Right
If you constantly believe you are right in every argument, conversation, or decision, you may be operating from pride, not wisdom. True wisdom is humble; it listens, learns, and is willing to admit fault. A person who never accepts correction is not growing — they’re only reinforcing their ego.
When You’re the Only Wise Person in the Room
If you think you’re the only one who truly understands things, that’s not wisdom — that’s arrogance dressed as intelligence. People have different perspectives, experiences, and levels of knowledge. You can’t learn from others if you already believe there’s nothing to learn.
When Nothing Anybody Does Seems Good to You
When you find fault in everything and everyone, you might be projecting dissatisfaction from within. A critical spirit often masks insecurity or unhealed wounds. Perfectionism and constant complaint drive people away — leaving you lonely and misunderstood, yet still convinced it’s everyone else’s fault.
When You’re Never Appreciative
Gratitude softens the heart and strengthens relationships. But if you’re the type who never says “thank you,” who always finds a reason why someone’s effort wasn’t enough, you slowly become emotionally bankrupt. People will stop trying to please you, not because they hate you, but because they are drained by your lack of appreciation.
When You’re a User
If your interactions are driven by what you stand to gain rather than genuine connection, you are not building relationships — you are conducting transactions. Users often disguise themselves as victims when people finally stop giving. But in truth, relationships thrive on reciprocity, not exploitation.
When You Have a Selective Reward System
When you only reward people who serve your interest or align with your bias, you create an atmosphere of manipulation. You make others feel unseen, undervalued, and disposable. That’s not leadership or love — that’s control. And control is the enemy of genuine respect.
A Final Reflection
When everyone around you seems “bad,” it might not be that the world is dark — perhaps your lens is just dirty. The hardest person to confront is ourselves, but that’s where transformation begins.
Before labeling others as toxic, pause and evaluate your own patterns. The mirror doesn’t lie. Growth starts when we stop defending our flaws and start refining them.
Sometimes, the problem isn’t everyone else — sometimes, it’s you.
Samson Anuoluwapo Balogun
Samson Balogun - Mc Captain